When Love Becomes An Obsession

For most people, love is a wonderful feeling, the union of two people who feel one; but for others, it can become an obsession, a maniacal desire to possess the other. This is the case of insecure and jealous people, whose social and emotional relationships may be unhealthy and who feel obsessed with the people they want, by persecuting them physically or through other means.

What is obsessive love

In a couple relationship, loving obsessively means going beyond love and developing a real obsession with your partner. However, these kinds of feelings can also be felt  for someone we don’t know anything about, a person we see often, but have never talked to or just met by chance one day.

People with obsessive disorders usually have low self-esteem, due to experiences they suffered during childhood that created an emotional emptiness in them. This is why they try to fill it with what they believe to be the love of another person and in them the hope dominates that, if they manage to possess the other, they will solve all their problems.

They are people who can see or know someone and immediately feel very strong emotions, which do not allow them to stop thinking about that person. They immediately feel a feeling of affection and eventually start fantasizing about her / him.

How to deal with an obsession

As with all other psychological problems, it is important to take the problem in hand, but it must be the person who suffers from an obsessive disorder himself who decides that he wants to free himself from this problem and solve it. To do this, consider the following tips:

• Step away from the problem  and let the person walk away. This is especially important if you are obsessed with her, because if you really want to change, and you have to forget that person, stay away from them and move on. Only in this way will the memories not return and the obsession will not grow.
• Look inside yourself and try to understand the position of the other, because it is important to understand that love is not a bond and that, when there is love, there cannot be possession. When the desire to possess comes into play, it is a clear warning sign: it is an obsession and it will hurt both you and others, so you need to stop those thoughts and distract yourself in other ways.
• Work on self-confidence, as low self-esteem can cause this disorder. Choose activities that help you feel good, because they will increase your self-confidence and help you free yourself from the thought of that person and be happier.

• In your free time, do some hobbies that you enjoy : in addition to developing new skills, they will increase your confidence and help you overcome those feelings of helplessness and despondency, channeling your energy into other activities.
• Seek professional help and also reach out to friends and family. A psychologist can listen to your problems and look for the cause, helping you find a solution, either on your own or through support groups. On the other hand, if you have a positive group of friends around you, their impact will be great and you will be able to find understanding and help when you need it.

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