Talking To People: Why Are They Exhausting?

Do you feel like you can’t attend a meeting because talking to people is exhausting you? Do you think socializing is a waste of time? Do you find it hard to relate to others? If the answer to these questions is yes, this article is for you. We will explain why talking to people sometimes makes  us tired.

First, it must be understood that if a person does not feel comfortable talking, this is not always due to a particular problem. Each of us has a different personality. Some have less resistance than others when it comes to relating and interacting socially. This does not necessarily mean that they suffer from a psychological problem, but from a difficulty, such as the fear of speaking in public. While this condition may be confused with social relationship exhaustion, it has nothing to do with it.

However, there are some psychological disorders that have an underlying difficulty in opening up and talking to other people. For example, those suffering from depression or anxiety find themselves in great difficulty in these situations, because they focus too much on their own person and find it difficult to connect with others.

Why is it exhausting talking to people?

Below we will explain some of the main reasons why you may experience this feeling of fatigue, exhaustion and tiredness when talking to others.

Particular signs of the personality

There are several personalities. Depending on the reference author, we will find different classifications and categories. Nonetheless, virtually every personality has a trait known as introversion. We are all introverts to a greater or lesser extent.

Being introverted is a widely recognized personality trait. It is the tendency of the individual to live in his inner world, to feel comfortable and happy when he is surrounded by few people or when he is not under pressure.

The opposite feature is extroversion. As in the first case, we are all extroverts to a greater or lesser extent. Nonetheless, even if we are very outgoing, there may be days when we don’t feel like talking to anyone  or even paying attention during conversations.

For the brain of an introverted person, talking to people is a major waste of energy. This is why it is easy to feel tired. Their brains don’t struggle to talk to people, but rather prioritizes other activities, including creativity, introspection, reflection, and analysis.

For this reason, introverted people should spend time alone, interspersing periods with recreational outings with friends. Remember that there is nothing wrong with being an introvert.

Low mood or demotivation

Low mood or demotivation causes a feeling of fatigue in performing activities. For some it becomes difficult to relate to others and carry out daily tasks.

In this sense, if your mood and level of personal demotivation are low, it is normal for you to feel exhausted when talking to people. The reason is that being trapped in this state, you feel as if the company of others is of no benefit. Maybe they don’t seem to motivate you or even waste your time.

One way to improve the situation is to talk to others, but for this strategy to work, you have to choose well with whom to do it. Above all, it is important to avoid people who only pass on problems and complaints to us. If we don’t do this, instead of feeling listened to, we will only experience a great deal of burden by supporting the negative emotions of others.

Another reason why talking to people exhausts you may be insecurity. An insecurity given by not knowing who to talk to about what happens to us. On the other hand, it is important to mention that a low mood can coexist with the difficulty of maintaining attention and actively participating in social situations. Thus, your emotional state will affect your social relationships and your ability to talk to people.

We are social animals

If talking to people is exhausting you, you need to keep in mind that it is a necessary activity. We are social animals and isolation only leads to greater isolation.

A possible alternative to improve your situation may be to better select who to talk to and on which topics. In fact, it can happen that, being introverted people, you relate to very extroverted people. These may require from you a great social participation that you may not be able to give.