6 Tips To Stop Complicating Your Life
“The great problems of man are three: the nature of complicating everything without the need for it and thus creating new problems; the absurd mania of taking on other people’s problems, and the stupidity of avoiding real problems. “
(Rafael Hernampérez)
As Hernampérez tells us , we complicate our lives for no reason.
Why do we look for problems where there are none? Why do we often take on the problems of others? And why, when a real problem arises, do we get scared and avoid it?
People are complicated, some more, some less.
Each of us carries a backpack, the weight of which is formed by memories, experiences, education received, etc. Often, this baggage hurts us and creates prejudices and problems in us in areas that were without them.
The most curious aspect is that, when a real problem arises, we tend to avoid it, we escape it, we are afraid.
“All I do is think about it”; “What will others think?”; “I feel so alone”; “I must keep the line, I must not eat the chocolate cake!”.
Do you feel identified with any of these phrases? These and many others flood our heads without us realizing it.
Little by little, thoughts prevent us from living, they go around our head, they hammer it… We begin to go into a spiral and we live more in our mind than in real life.
But, if we want it, everything can change. It is possible to train our mind a little at a time, just as we train our muscles.
Time to stop complicating your life for nonsense! Do you want to do it? If you wish, you can change gradually. Of course, everything takes effort. In this article we leave you some tips on this.
Give things the importance they deserve
Worry when it is really necessary. Stop giving importance to irrelevant things, like “I missed the bus!”, Adding the omnipresent phrase “how unlucky I am!”.
Don’t worry more than you should, especially since the problems and difficulties won’t be solved if you spend more time thinking about them.
Forgive yourself and forgive others
We often feel guilty for doing something bad to someone and continue to whip ourselves for this reason; at other times it happens that we cannot forgive the mistakes made by others.
Not forgiving limits us and prevents us from moving forward; forgiving, on the other hand, frees us. Forgive yourself, forgive yourself and move on.
Get away from worries
Understand that when you are disconnected from work, you are truly disconnected.
If you come back from the hospital after visiting a family member or if a friend has told you a problem, when you come home don’t go on thinking about it. You need to relax your mind and free it from everyday stress and worries.
Clarify your point of view
If you have a problem with someone, if there has been a misunderstanding and you can’t stop thinking about it, the best thing to do is to talk to that person.
Clarify your point of view, you will take the weight off you. It is also good that you accept others as they are and that you choose the people who make you feel good as friends.
Remember that you are nobody to impose your outlook on life on others and to demand that they behave in a certain way.
Adopt slogans for yourself
Start thinking of phrases like “you can’t feel charity for others if you don’t feel it for yourself”; “You can’t always worry about things that aren’t worth it”; “Life is made up of days, you can’t spend them thinking”.
Look for the one that represents you the most and repeat it within yourself frequently.
Recognize your mistakes without being martyred and be self-ironic
Everyone is wrong, even you, no problem! Learn from your mistakes and continue on your way. Every mistake can be a lesson and every crisis an opportunity.
Remember that life is a game and must be taken as such, sometimes you win, other times you lose. It can even be more fun to lose, as we learn more and get stronger.
