Cowardice Ages Us More Than Time

Cowardice ages more than the years contained in the wrinkles of a face. Dreams shattered for lack of decision weigh more than a century enclosed in a look and in a mouth that he loved when he had the opportunity. Those who have not tried when they could out of fear or pride feel a void in their soul, a thorn in their heart.

Let’s talk about missed opportunities. A curious aspect that they often repeat to us is that of “trains go by every day for those who know how to wait” or “opportunities return for those who go out again to look for them”. However, we must also be aware that there are certain things for which there are no second chances.

Cowardice, lack of courage or fear are important factors that put ropes on our feet and chains on our minds. However, instead of complaining about unlived experiences due to indecision, it is necessary to see our timeline in another way. There is no beginning and no end. There is a continuum and new beginnings that we must know how to integrate and foster with adequate psychological focus.  

We suggest you learn them with us in this article.

If it was cowardice, it is now part of the past: we must move forward

Maybe it was cowardice. Perhaps pride has blinded us too much in front of that love and, now, we are left with only desire, pain and repentance. Maybe it was fear, a deep fear of tearing up our roots, of overcoming our limits to start new projects, new lives that would have made us happier. Maybe…

However, far from falling into a sort of obsessive melancholy of the type “What would have become of my life if …”, it is necessary to restructure this point of view in a more complete way. The “lost train syndrome” has hit or will hit everyone sooner or later. However, it must be borne in mind that mental models and emotional drifts anchored to yesterday irremediably condition the quality of our present.

In an interesting article published in the American Journal of Psychology ,  entitled “Nostalgia: Withdrawal or Support in Difficult Times”, he explains that past events, disappointments or even trains that let slip out of indecision act on many people as “role models. unaware “. They determine us, limit our present and irremediably condition our future.

It is not appropriate, one must advance with confidence and wisdom.

Set your life in circles not along a straight line

Peter Senge is a renowned economist, pedagogue and professor at Stanford University, famous for his theories of systems and a more humane and flexible approach to organizations. Although his work focuses on the entrepreneurial sphere, his theories are illuminating and wonderful even when applied to the field of personal development.

Dr. Senge proposes the following: stop understanding our lives as straight lines. Understanding life as a straight line leads, first of all, to drag the past into the present and even to project it into the future. It is obvious that we are everything we have lived, everything that has happened to us and even how much we have suffered. Sometimes, however, it is enough to change a small thought pattern to see and feel things in another way.  

To end a cycle and advance with greater integrity, we must close circles. It is in the circle of yesterday where cowardice, fear and broken dreams must remain to create a new one. Each stage of our life must be a new and stronger circle in which to integrate all the lessons learned. We explain it in more detail below. 

Life is made up of circles that form a chain

We continue with the image of a continuum, but now this straight line is made up of circles and each of them contains a phase of our existence. It is like a chain, like a jewel of precious stones and of various colors.

• If we visualize it for a moment, we will understand the magic of the idea. To move forward with greater ease, it is necessary to courageously close every circle of our life. The next step in this chain begins with a new circle in which we are the creators of what we want to add to it.

• We need to be aware that there are things we need to give up. In the previous circles, there are people who will not return, as well as projects that we cannot undertake. However, a new canvas stretches before us which deserves to take advantage of what has been experienced, seen and experienced.  

Cowardice remained forever in those circles of the past. You are now a new person who has allowed herself to grow, who is comfortable with herself and who, believe it or not, is on the move, continues to transform into something wonderful if she will and will allow it. It is worth a try .